Limerence & The LO of “High Value”

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Limerence & The LO of “High Value”

Limerence is often triggered most when you begin to see your LO (limerence object or love object) as someone of extraordinarily high value — and you start to devalue yourself. A power dynamic begins to form as you put this magical other person on a pedestal, while you slowly begin to feel less and less empowered. The LO now has a power over you that you can’t seem to control. This often happens during the “crystallization” process - a time when you highlight all of LO’s amazing qualities and realize this is more than a “crush.” Your feelings are stronger and more uncontrollable than you may be prepared for.

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Limerence and Finding Closure

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Limerence and Finding Closure

Whether you’ve been in the throes of limerence for only a few months or a few years, you undoubtedly have asked yourself: When will this end? Will I ever feel closure from this? Is it even possible? How long will it take?

While everyone’s limerence experience is different, I can say for certain that there IS an end and closure is possible, though it may not be in the way that you want to happen or expect it to unfold.

Keep in mind the following when you are feeling desperate for your attachment to your LO and the painful feelings of limerence to be DONE…

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Understanding the Roots of Limerence

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Understanding the Roots of Limerence

Each person has a unique internal and emotional road map that led them to limerence, but there are some commonalities we tend to share for those who become limerent. Are any of these relatable?

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Addicted to Love? Or Is It Limerence?

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Addicted to Love? Or Is It Limerence?

Falling in love is a heady experience. Life can go from gray tones to technicolor in days.

If you’ve been in a depressed slump, experiencing a huge life transition or a big loss, the rush of euphoric oxytocin/dopamine and other neurotransmitters can make you feel amazing, until - it stops feeling so great. But…is it the real person or the feeling of being in love that you love?

When you realize that despite your best efforts, you ACTUALLY can’t stop thinking about this other person even if you want to - whether or not it is even a good/rationale/sane idea to try to be with them, you may also realize you may need some help getting out of this. 

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