May 29, 2025

Limerence & The LO of “High Value”

May 29, 2025/ Stephanie Lazzara

Limerence is often triggered most when you begin to see your LO (limerence object or love object) as someone of extraordinarily high value — and you start to devalue yourself. A power dynamic begins to form as you put this magical other person on a pedestal, while you slowly begin to feel less and less empowered. The LO now has a power over you that you can’t seem to control. This often happens during the “crystallization” process - a time when you highlight all of LO’s amazing qualities and realize this is more than a “crush.” Your feelings are stronger and more uncontrollable than you may be prepared for.

May 12, 2023

Limerence: A Love Story Like No Other

May 12, 2023/ Stephanie Lazzara

You are convinced you’ve finally found the missing piece. This is what love is supposed to feel like! Or so the story goes.

You may not know it, but you’ve been brewing a love story. You’ve been quietly cataloging all of the things you find attractive and magnetic in others, what feels like “home” and how you want to love and be loved. Your brain has been clocking the qualities of parents, caregivers, those close to you since you were very young.