Limerence and Finding Closure

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Limerence and Finding Closure

Whether you’ve been in the throes of limerence for only a few months or a few years, you undoubtedly have asked yourself: When will this end? Will I ever feel closure from this? Is it even possible? How long will it take?

While everyone’s limerence experience is different, I can say for certain that there IS an end and closure is possible, though it may not be in the way that you want to happen or expect it to unfold.

Keep in mind the following when you are feeling desperate for your attachment to your LO and the painful feelings of limerence to be DONE…

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Addicted to Love? Or Is It Limerence?

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Addicted to Love? Or Is It Limerence?

Falling in love is a heady experience. Life can go from gray tones to technicolor in days.

If you’ve been in a depressed slump, experiencing a huge life transition or a big loss, the rush of euphoric oxytocin/dopamine and other neurotransmitters can make you feel amazing, until - it stops feeling so great. But…is it the real person or the feeling of being in love that you love?

When you realize that despite your best efforts, you ACTUALLY can’t stop thinking about this other person even if you want to - whether or not it is even a good/rationale/sane idea to try to be with them, you may also realize you may need some help getting out of this. 

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Food For Love: Hope, Fantasy and Anticipation

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Food For Love: Hope, Fantasy and Anticipation

All love stories start out with the big three: Hope, Fantasy and Anticipation.

In reciprocated, mutualing-falling-in-love love stories, the Hope, Fantasy and Anticipation trifecta create the exciting beginning stage or “honeymoon” phase. But what if there are obstacles? What if the one you love isn’t available, or worse, you’re not sure if they feel the same way? Falling in love is a natural progression and a natural state of being, but….

Love doesn’t really seem to care if you’re already married or committed…Or if the one you love is. Or if they give you mixed signals….

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