Limerence & The LO of “High Value”
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Limerence and Addiction to Excitement
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If you’ve been struggling to overcome your limerence experience and battling the nonstop thoughts and feelings about your LO, the addiction to emotional excitement factor is something to consider as a part of the why in your limerence journey.
For some of us, especially those of us who have a history of depression or anxiety, the emotional excitement we experience with limerence can be extremely stimulating - even when it becomes more painful. Instead of feeling flat or if we are bored and unmotivated, the dopamine surge that happens when we see or contact LO can be euphoric. We can find that if we examine what is happening, we may be more prone to reaching out or follow an impulse to contact LO when we feel bored or understimulated emotionally. Our brains have been rewired to crave the anticipation and excitement and now look for that hit to feel better or at least “OK.”
Read MoreUnderstanding the Roots of Limerence
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Each person has a unique internal and emotional road map that led them to limerence, but there are some commonalities we tend to share for those who become limerent. Are any of these relatable?
Read MoreDoes Mutual Limerence Really Exist?
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Mutual limerence is the intense, fated seeming love coupling portrayed in story books or movies…after conquering a big obstacle, both people fall madly, head over heels in love in mutual emotional and physical bliss, admiration and passion for each other. For many of us, it’s the ideal and why we keep searching for “the one.” And while mutual limerence certainly does occur (at least in the beginning of a relationship) the timing of limerence happening mutually in a sustained way, for both people and at the same degree of intensity is much, much more rare.
Read on to find out more about mutual limerence….
Read MoreFood For Love: Hope, Fantasy and Anticipation
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All love stories start out with the big three: Hope, Fantasy and Anticipation.
In reciprocated, mutualing-falling-in-love love stories, the Hope, Fantasy and Anticipation trifecta create the exciting beginning stage or “honeymoon” phase. But what if there are obstacles? What if the one you love isn’t available, or worse, you’re not sure if they feel the same way? Falling in love is a natural progression and a natural state of being, but….
Love doesn’t really seem to care if you’re already married or committed…Or if the one you love is. Or if they give you mixed signals….
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