Limerence and Addiction to Excitement
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Limerence can introduce you to emotional highs and lows that you didn’t even know were possible.
If you’ve been struggling to overcome your limerence experience and battling the nonstop thoughts and feelings about your LO, the addiction to emotional excitement factor is something to consider as a part of the why in your limerence journey.
For some of us, especially those of us who have a history of depression or anxiety, the emotional excitement we experience with limerence can be extremely stimulating - even when it becomes more painful. Instead of feeling flat or if we are bored and unmotivated, the dopamine surge that happens when we see or contact LO can be euphoric. We can find that if we examine what is happening, we may be more prone to reaching out or follow an impulse to contact LO when we feel bored or understimulated emotionally. Our brains have been rewired to crave the anticipation and excitement and now look for that hit to feel better or at least “OK.”
If this resonates with you, mindfulness and building self awareness can help support your healing.
If you feel the familiar impulse to contact LO - even though you KNOW it will not lead to a satisfying outcome - ie. they don’t respond or reply or it causes you to get on the uncertainty rollercoaster that causes deep lows and crushing anxiety, check yourself before you react or act.
Questions to ask yourself:
What do I really need right now? Is LO going to give me the validation I really want and need?
What is another way I can create a healthy sense of excitement and stimulation in my life?
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With Love,
Coach Steph
